How To Be Calm Even When Things Get Rough



闷热的天气是不是总是很难静下心来😣？是不是觉得正在经历的事情很痛苦😖？但是知道自己不能就这样放弃😔？有时候，停下脚步，让焦躁的心平静下来真的很重要。
（刷题刷得好痛苦😢，翻到Crazy English 里的一篇文章。你我共勉❤️）

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1. Cry if u need to ----for a while.

Some people are more emotional than others.
But repressing 【压制】ur emotions doesn't always help. If u do repress them , it's like holding a beach ball under the water. You can do it for a while ,but it will eventually 【最后】come back to the surface ----and sometimes in an explosive 【爆发】manner. So have a good cry once in a while. Let the emotions out in order to help yourself think more clearly afterwards.

2. Then stop the crying and put ur logical side in the driver's seat.

Once u let ur emotions out, make a decision to put ur emotional side in the passenger's seat and let ur logical side drive . Logic will help u stay and focused during chaos 【混乱】.If u let ur emotions out with a good cry or two , u can shift mental 【精神】gears and take the next step: solve the problem .


3. Be solution - oriented.

Dwelling on 【凝思】the negatives won't change anything. Let's say u just lost ur job. Maybe it was a shock. So you've had ur cry or the time to freak out【吓坏】, and then u made the decision to put ur logical hat on . Now look at the possibilities . Start applying for jobs . Think about a career change or starting ur own business. Look at the actions u can take to make ur situation better . Then do something .

4. Remove yourself from the situation if you can.

Maybe u didn't lose ur job----but u hate ur job. Or ur boss. Or ur co-workers. Maybe you're in a loveless relationship . If there is any possible way for u to remove yourself from a negative situation , then do it . Staying and dwelling on the negatives won't make u happier or calmer. Sometimes u just need to get out so u can have a better life.


5.Keep things in perspective .

Sometimes what we think is a tragedy【悲剧】isn't really a tragedy . It may just feel like one. As I look back on my life, some of the things that I thought were the end of the world were just stepping stones. I like to ask myself the question," At the end of my life ,am I going to look back at this problem and feel that it was significant【意义重大】？Or will I just laugh at how upset I was over it ? " if u can give ur problems a new perspective like that , it will help u stay calm. Sure, some problems really are huge . But many of them are not ---- we just think they are.


6. Remember that it won't last forever.

One of my favorite quotes is :" the only thing constant 【不变的】is change." While that's an ironic statement , it's actually very true . No one stays in one place . It might feel like you're staying in the same place, but time marches on【前进】.If u take action to make a better life for yourself, then u are claiming ur power and taking that first step towards being happier.

7. Ask for help.
Unfortunately , a lot of people think that asking for help is a sign of weakness . It's not! Where has it ever been written that everyone needs to go through their problems alone? Nowhere! Having other people support u----either emotionally or by actually doing something to help ----will make u feel like u have less of a burden【负担】on your shoulders . Less burden equals more clam, collected【冷静的】，and lighter feelings.


8. Realize that it could be worse .

Another thing that helps me keep calm during tough time is that I always remember that there a lot worse things that could be happening. Maybe u did lose ur job , but at least u have ur health and perhaps family members to help u get back on ur feet. Somewhere in the world ,someone has it a lot worse than u do right at this moment. I know it doesn't always feel that way ,but many times, it's true .


9. Believe that things will get better.

Hope . Hope is everything. If u don't believe that things will change , then they won't. I always love to quote Henry Ford when he said," Whether u think u can----or u think u can't ----either way , you are right." If u think things will get better, then they eventually will. If u think they won't , then they won't . Your beliefs shape ur experience .

Staying calm when life gets rough takes practice , but it can be done. If u practice these steps on a regular basis , eventually it will become second nature to u .

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