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你有没有注意到，人们约会时总会遵循某种特定的模式？如果说你还是单身，正好想要开始一段恋情，那么，了解你自己以及交往对象的约会类型能帮你解决很多疑惑。你是哪种类型呢？来看看吧~

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01 The Avoider 逃避者型

Avoiders want to have an organically unfolding connection with partners; they hope that a suitable partner will appear without any special effort on their part. When they do date, they usually date those they know through friends, work or school. Avoiders believe (or desperately hope) love will "just happen." 
逃避者希望很自然地和交往对象建立亲密关系；他们希望自己不费吹灰之力就能找到合适的交往对象。通常，他们的交往对象都是通过朋友、同事或同学认识的。逃避者认为（或是迫切渴望），爱能“顺其自然”地出现。

※ 给逃避者型的小贴士
Avoiders need to stop avoiding and start dating. New thinking takes practice.
逃避者应该不再逃避，开始约会。新想法总是需要实践的。

02 The Dreamer 理想主义者型

Dreamers believe in love at first sight and feel that anything less is a waste of time. They don't easily move on if their attraction to another is not reciprocated or the other person isn't seeking a relationship. 
理想主义者相信一见钟情，并认为其他形式的爱就是浪费时间。如果他们的爱没有得到相应的回应，或者对方并未准备开始一段恋情，他们就不会轻易采取攻势。

※ 给理想主义者型的小贴士
Similar to Avoiders, Dreamers need practice dating other people. What are the qualities you desire in others? Are they present in you? Can you cultivate them? Dreamers need a reality check.
与逃避者相似，理想主义者也需要练习与他人约会。你希望别人拥有哪些特质？你自己拥有那些特质吗？你能培养出那些特质吗？理想主义者真该多多自我反思。

03 The Dreamer 乞怜者型

Martyrs can be very empathetic, which is a wonderful quality. However, they can too easily lose their own sense of self worth and diminish their own needs and desires. Martyrdom can easily lead to masochism if you're not careful.
乞怜者可能会非常惹人爱怜，这是个很好的品质。但是，他们很容易缺乏自我认可，从而降低自我需求、减少内心的渴望。一不小心，乞怜者很容易产生受虐倾向。

※ 给乞怜者型的小贴士
If there is one thing the Martyr needs to focus on, it's their sense of self-worth. If you are a Martyr, it's probably a good idea to take a break from dating until you are able to choose your partners from a position of confidence.
如果说有什么是乞怜者需要注意的，那就是他们的自我价值。如果你是个“乞怜者”，那你就该停止约会的脚步，直到你能充满自信地选择交往对象。

04 The Protector 保护者

Protectors pride themselves on being able to see a side or an aspect of a person that most others can't see. They secretly (or not so secretly) hope that they can love or encourage their partners into lasting change or breakthroughs. 
保护者可以看到别人身上的某一方面，而这一方面是大部分人注意不到的，他们以此为豪。他们心里（或表面）希望自己的爱或鼓励可以帮助交往对象，让他们产生长久的改变或突破。

※ 给保护者型的小贴士
This dating type can result in well balanced relationships when the person being nurtured/protected is on the same page.
只有当被保护者也有同样的觉悟时，这样的恋情才能达到很好的平衡。

05 The Charmer 魅力十足者型

Charmers love the thrill of the chase (or being chased). They are naturally adept at attracting many potential partners. They can be impulsive and fall in love easily and passionately for a short time.
魅力十足者很喜欢追人（或被人追）的感觉。他们天生就善于吸引很多潜在的交往对象。他们做事很冲动，很容易爱上别人，但是激情很快就会消逝。

※ 给魅力十足者型的小贴士
Charmer, know thyself! The key for you is to use your powers for good, not evil. Your number one rule should be honesty, honesty, honesty.
魅力十足者们，多多了解自己吧！对于你来说，关键在于合理地施展魅力，而不是到处施展魅力。你的第一法则应是诚实，诚实，诚实。